A 37-year-old tech professional has sparked a lively discussion on Reddit after consulting his 34-year-old wife about his intentions to divorce. His post has garnered considerable attention, garnering numerous responses from users on the platform. Some offered practical steps to secede, while others called for a reconsideration of his decision.
In his letter, the man clarified that there were no issues of physical abuse or financial instability in his marriage. Instead, he cited his wife's “nervous behavior” as the primary cause of his dissatisfaction, and described their relationship as “problematic.” He shared details of their financial arrangements, noting that he covers the rent of Rs 45,000 and his wife manages the salary of Rs 8,000 for their cook and maid. Both partners hold similar positions in the tech industry and earn comparable salaries.
The tech worker described a period in their relationship where things improved after months of constant fighting. During this time they agreed to whatever their partner wanted which made for a more peaceful atmosphere. However, tension arose when the tech worker's parents came to visit.
The partner stated that they were uncomfortable with the tech worker's parents being in their home, and that they would leave if the parents stayed. As a result, the tech worker's parents decided to stay somewhere else, even though it was a long way to go to the city.
Feeling the situation disrespectful, the techie decided to invite their parents for the last two days of their trip. This action prompted the partner to act differently, to withdraw and not communicate with anyone, suggesting that the conflict had rekindled tensions in the relationship.
Among the responses, one user, claiming to be a lawyer, advised against litigation, suggesting that mediation and counseling might be more helpful than a court battle. They stressed the importance of understanding the specific legal implications of divorce and urged him to personally consult a lawyer for tailored advice.
“Hello, lawyer, here in a cold marriage dispute like this, counseling and mediation is a better option (should be the last option) than fighting the divorce in court. You can't give exact advice here because I usually don't know many details to analyze the situation. , you can contact me if you need advice, the user said.
Another commentator cautioned him about the complexities of the divorce process, noting that the duration can stretch for years, depending on whether the separation is mutual or contested. They highlighted potential legal costs and advised careful consideration before proceeding.
Additional users offered practical advice, recommending that he document any evidence relevant to his situation before making any decisions. They cautioned against starting a family under the current circumstances and suggested maintaining boundaries with in-laws.